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An Open Letter to the Supernatural Family

Dear Supernatural Family,

I tend to hang out on the fringes of things, happily avoiding much of the conflict and fray within this fandom. But lately, I feel as if I can't simply do that without tripping over all the fighting---and so I must say something because in so many ways silence implies complacency. Silence implies agreement. Silence does not stop things.

I am not going to expound on the idea of shipping---ship, don't ship, I don't really care. I'm not going to tell you how to enjoy the show. That's been part of the problem in this fandom lately. So many vocal fans are telling so many other fans that this or that view is the only view of the show and that any other view is wrong or blind to the truth or however it is worded that ends up with blow ups. And that has to stop. That's what I care about. I care about the fandom wars and about who is right and who is wrong and how there's this line in the sand and if you cross it to one side or the other you're labeled as being for or against this or that and therefore less of a fan. I think it needs to stop and stop right now.

Even more, we have some vocal members of fandom taking it not just to other fans, but to the creative team. That. Has. To. Stop. Right. Now.

We are very blessed in the Supernatural Family to have the access that we do to our cast and crew. Not many fans in other fandoms can say that they have had the opportunity to meet the stars of their show. Not many other fans can say that they've had the chance to meet and hang out with the crew that works its magic behind the scenes for their favorite show. Not many fans in other fandoms can say that they have had conversations on Twitter so easily as we have had with various cast and crew members as we have had with our show. It's special. This relationship should be treated with the utmost respect. We should approach this relationship between us the fan and the creative team behind Supernatural with gratitude and love---not demanding this or that or being angry in voicing our opinions. We should always be respectful when we talk with them---even if we're voicing a criticism. It's only right and fair. We, the fan, have no right to demand anything from them or anyone on the show. So stop it.

In the blink of an eye, we could see the open relationship we share with them disappear. They could leave Twitter. They could decide to no longer attend conventions for fears of facing hostility or anger or never ending demands. And that would be the greatest tragedy of it all. We're lucky. Beyond lucky. We have something that is so special and so wonderful. Why are we allowing our worst to taint what is our best? We should be championing the better side of our Family. The side that makes me proud to be a part of it.

Our Supernatural Family is a generous, smart, kind, and beautiful fandom with many different views and passions and beliefs. When we are a united force, we can accomplish anything. ANYTHING. We can get our boys on the People's Choice Awards and win Best Fandom. We can raise over $30,000 for St. Jude's in honor of Thomas Padalecki's birth. We can rally around one another to help Gabriel Tigerman when he's in his time of need after his wife and child struggled. We can break world records with GISHWHES and help Random Acts build an orphanage in Haiti. We can do so much good in this Family. As they say, once you're in the Supernatural Family, you're IN to stay.

I am blown away by our talents, too. So many of us produce fantastic art. Or writing. Or videos. Or other various projects that are inspired by this show. We're talented. We have so much to offer to the world and to one another. Instead, we're allowing the negative side and the fighting to take things over and taint what wonderful potential we all have to make this fandom and world a bit better. Sure, Supernatural is only a TV show, but you know what? We in the Supernatural Family know that it is more than that---not simply because what it puts on our screens---but how it brought so many of us together. So many of us have beautiful friendships and memories that were forged because of this show---and that's the legacy that we should celebrate instead. That's where our fandom is powerful. In Family.

And let's be real for a moment. Supernatural is in its ninth season. IT'S NINTH SEASON. We did that. Us. The Supernatural Family is why we have the ninth season---and possibly more. We didn't get this show this far by fighting so viciously with one another. No. We did it together, supporting the show with everything we've got. And while we've never all seen it the same way, we can remember to be respectful of one another, of those who make the show, and ourselves.

Please, Supernatural Family, let's stop fighting. Let's remember that “family don't end in blood” and set aside the anger. This show is about love. Let's honor that.

Hi. Not signed in and writing from my mobile but I'm sandymg on LJ. Bravo. This was well written and so veey correct. Thanks for say what needs to be said. Many have couched this in talk of representation. I am sympathetic to that. I get it. But this is not the way. Better to reach out to new producers and writers early. Or to have thoughtful, respectful dialog with producers you admire.

Thanks for sharing.

Thank you!

For me, I think it all boils down to respect on everyone's parts. And that's what I think we all need to remember. Respect.

Thanks again.

So well said. Thank you. It's been bothering me A LOT.

Thank you!

It's been bothering me for a long time and I finally just decided to say something. I am so moved so many are responding to this the way they are. I had no idea it'd get so big!

Thanks again!

Well said. I applaude you and your bravery! You are completely right. We are going to lose this gift if this continues. The last convention I went to I got VIP and I got an awesome chance to talk to the guys as well as some really cool crew members. But while I and most of the other VIPs were happy and trying to relax there were some fans that were asking questions and making insinuations that were frankly making EVERYONE uncomfortable. Now they were not being inappropriate and of.course the guys wers super cool about it but you could tell that they werent really as excited about seeing us while trying to navigate some of these questions. I am not saying there is a right way yo interact with your favorite cast or crew member....but there is a wrong way, because I say that clear as day on their faces. I really applaude your bravery and I am going to retweet this letter! We love ya over here! Keep up the good work!

Thank you so much. I am so touched by everyone's continued sharing and response to the letter. I had no idea I was launching something when I vented on Sunday morning! I don't know if it's brave necessarily, but I'm tired of hiding and such, so I said something.

I can imagine that some of the questions were a bit awkward for the guys, and that's a shame. I know if I were to be lucky enough to be a VIP ticket holder I'd ask a ton of questions--but mostly related to how the show is made cause I'm a huge nerd. I'd also love to talk sports with J2 (Jared in particular), but yes, there's no right way to interact but there is a WRONG way and we need to face that head on.

Thanks again for sharing the letter and I hope it gets far and wide in the fandom and things can start to change.

Open letter to Supernatural Family

Thank you so much for writing this letter, I wholeheartedly agree with what you said and just hope everyone in the fandom reads it and takes heed of your words. The cast and crew are so open with the fans and don't deserve the bashing they get from those who are either not happy that the storyline is not going the way they want it to or there's something else they disagree with. I do wonder what these fans who bash and hate on the cast and crew are like in real life when things don't go their way. There are so many great people in this fandom and I'm proud to be a member of it, but there are those whose behaviour I don't want to be associated with and from these people there needs to be some moderation and toleration.
I love this show and what the cast and crew do for the fans and they have my total support and appreciation.
Thanks again for putting this in print.

Edited at 2013-11-01 10:46 am (UTC)

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Thanks so much for your wonderful response.

I was blown away and changed by my VanCon Experience. I was fortunate enough to meet Robbie Thompson (the only Supernatural related person I shook like a leaf meeting), Robert Singer, Adam Glass, and the VFX crew aside from the guests selected to already appear at the convention for panels. I had the chance to tell these people something direct and from the heart and I took it, telling them that this show has done so much for me. I can't imagine taking any anger out on them. Constructive Criticism is one thing. Anger is another.

I had seen in the last month before the show returned and since some vicious things I normally dodge fairly well. And I'm tired of dodging it, so I said something. I'm glad it has found traction within fandom.

I hope more see it and do something to speak up against the anger and hate.

Thanks for sharing it!

Open letter to Supernatural family

This was beautifully written. My SN sis ziggyuk emailed this to me and a few others with the link to your LJ page. I wholeheartedly agree! If we abuse the gifts we've been given, we will have them taken away from us.

I've been disgusted with the more radical fans over the past few years...actually since season four when things really started heating up on the forums. I actually gave up on forums for that very reason - there were too many arguments between people who considered themselves right and everyone who disagreed were wrong and were told so in very rude and abusive terms. The actors were trashed, the crew was trashed, the storylines were trashed...along with any fan who admitted to still enjoying the show.

And I felt ashamed of calling myself a fan when I heard that Jim Beaver among others had read some of these comments and have tried to respond to them in defence of themselves, their characters or our show. How utterly horrible.

I've been to a few conventions now - wish I could get over to VanCon and meet the boys again, as it doesn't seem like they will come back to Australia any time soon. And they, and all other actors I've met from the Supernatural family, are the nicest, most patient and giving people! They do NOT deserve the criticism and almost outright hatred that has come their way of late. And that goes for the whole crew as well.

These people work damned hard to bring us our weekly dose of the Winchesters' world. They deserve our thanks, not our abuse. Please people, wake up, before it's too late, and the unrestrained and ill-mannered few ruin it for us all.


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Mizpah(Jules) referred this post and I'm glad she did because it rings so true and I think speaks to the heart of most Supernatural fans. Well said. :)

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Thanks so much for your wonderful response.

I joined this show in season 6, and I have found my whole world largely turned upside down and around all because of it. I started to write and to look into a new career and doing all these things because this show told me I could do anything if I stuck to my guns and expanded my world. I can never repay that.

I think the only way we can combat this type of vicious behavior is to be positive and respectful. Will we love every storyline or character or what have you? No. Probably not, but there is a way to express our dislike of those things in a constructive and meaningful manner rather than brutally attacking those who make the show and each other. I'm just asking for civility at this point.

That, and I'm tired of hiding. The whole point of being in fandom is I should be able to say "I love this episode/character/storyline/whatever" and not have to spend the rest of the time defending why or my own character. We're here because we have a mutual love for this show. Why not remember that?

Thanks again and keep sharing this little letter.


Thank you, you put into words what so many of us should have been saying right away. When you don't say something it's like you are agreeing with what is going on around.

This historically has been a problem for the majority letting the minority take over - THIS HAS TO STOP.....

We as fandom are blessed - having the ability to interact with so many in connection with the show. I know that I've had some of my tweets answers by Jim and Guy - totally surprising me and making me giddy. Jared and a few of the others have even been tweeting during the shows airing lately and if the fans don't appreciate what we have we are going to lose it.

There is a saying that says "familiarity breeds contempt" - the fact that we are able to have this interaction and get to know the people involved as much as we are able to; we still don't really know them and don't have a right to expect them to change the show to our liking. We become too familiar with them and think that we know them and know what's best. WE DON'T SO STOP (not you but the others that are doing it).

Again, thank you for taking the time to write and share this and I pray that somehow some way the cast and crew of Supernatural gets to read that not all of the fans are behind the way a few of them are behaving.

I'm looking forward to see where this wonderful SUPERNATURAL adventure takes us!


Thank you so much for your response.

I don't know if this little letter of mine has reached the Crew/Cast. I'd like to think they know we're not all this way nor do most of us feel the way that some of the very vicious vocal portions of fandom have been as of late---those that are attacking them on Twitter cannot be as large of a percentage of total viewers when we look at the ratings and such.

I had this on my chest for a very long time and I happened to have a bout of major insomnia and little sleep when I actually wrote it. I just wanted to be able to talk about my show and not feel like I'd have to don a Kevlar vest to block the bullets.

Thanks again and keep sharing it!